Maintain Your Friendship...

10 Points to Maintain Friendship

1. FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN GIVE TO A FRIEND, NOT WHAT YOU CAN GET OUT OF A FRIENDSHIP.
If being happy is your only motive for wanting someone to be your friend, then you are not being a real friend. Don't get caught up in keeping tabs on who has given most in the friendship. Give to your friends regardless of how much they give to you.

2. ENCOURAGE YOUR FRIEND.
Real friends inspire and push each other to be the best that they can be, rather than drag each other down. They are happy when other people achieve their goals.

3. BE WILLING TO FORGIVE.
Don't let hurt turn to grudge. This is one sure way to destroy a friendship. Forgive your friend and move on.

4. TACTFULLY POINT OUT THEIR MISTAKES.
This is one way to show concern for others. If you really care, you will tactfully point out a specific example for his own good. But once you've brought the problem to your friend's attention, don't harp on it all the time. Don't walk away from a friendship when you see some of your friend's faults. Be patient with a friend as he or she tries to change. Realize that nobody is perfect.

5. BE RELIABLE.
When you say you are going to be there, be there.

6. DON'T TRY TO CONTROL YOUR FRIENDS.
Real friendship does not mean you always have to be together. It may be tempting to have a fun person all to yourself, and feel threatened when your friend spends time with others. If you are afraid to let your friends out of your sight, you are probably afraid of losing them. Good friendship will endure time spent apart. You and your friends may learn to appreciate each other even more.

7. BE THERE FOR THE GOOD AND THE BAD TIMES.
Celebrate with them if your friends are excited about something. But don't be there just for the good times. When your friend is upset about something, give them your full attention. Most of the time, what friends really need is a sympathetic ear, someone who understand their feelings.

8. LEARN TO ACCEPT PERSONALITY DIFFERENCES IN YOUR FRIENDS.
Be careful not to evaluate other people by how you react in a particular situation. Do not automatically take your friends' behavior personally.

9. DON'T BE A BLABBERMOUTH.
Learn and be willing to keep each other's secrets.

10. DON'T LET ARGUMENTS DESTROY YOUR FRIENDSHIP.
Suppose you're having a discussion with a friend and after you've said what you think is true, they still disagree. Don't keep arguing until you get mad with each other. Just drop it. Your desire to win the argument may ruin your friendship.

Selected Teachings of Swami Vivekananda

My ideal, indeed, can be put into a few words, and that is: to preach unto mankind their divinity, and how to make it manifest in every movement of life.

Education is the manifestation of the perfection already in man.

We want that education by which character is formed, strength of mind is increased, the intellect is expanded, and by which one can stand on one's own feet.

So long as the millions live in hunger and ignorance, I hold every man a traitor who, having been educated at their expense, pays not the least heed to them.

Whatever you think, that you will be. If you think yourselves weak, weak you will be; if you think yourselves strong, strong you will be.

If you have faith in all the three hundred and thirty millions of your mythological gods, … and still have no faith in yourselves, there is no salvation for you. Have faith in yourselves, and stand up on that faith and be strong; that is what we need.

Strength, strength it is that we want so much in this life, for what we call sin and sorrow have all one cause, and that is our weakness. With weakness comes ignorance, and with ignorance comes misery.

The older I grow, the more everything seems to me to lie in manliness. This is my new Gospel.

Purity, patience, and perseverance are the three essentials to success, and above all, love.

Religion is realization; not talk, not doctrine, nor theories, however beautiful they may be. It is being and becoming, not hearing or acknowledging; it is the whole soul becoming changed into what it believes.

Religion is the manifestation of the Divinity already in man.

Teach yourselves, teach everyone his real nature, call upon the sleeping soul and see how it awakes. Power will come, glory will come, goodness will come, purity will come, and everything that is excellent will come when this sleeping soul is roused to self-conscious activity.

They alone live who live for others, the rest are more dead than alive.

This is the gist of all worship – to be pure and to do good to others.

It is love and love alone that I preach, and I base my teaching on the great Vedantic truth of the sameness and omnipresence of the Soul of the Universe.

Swami Vivekananda's Speech in Chicago, Sept 11, 1893

Sisters and Brothers of America,

It fills my heart with joy unspeakable to rise in response to the warm and cordial welcome which you have given us. I thank you in the name of the most ancient order of monks in the world; I thank you in the name of the mother of religions, and I thank you in the name of millions and millions of Hindu people of all classes and sects.
Swami Vivekananda My thanks, also, to some of the speakers on this platform who, referring to the delegates from the Orient, have told you that these men from far-off nations may well claim the honor of bearing to different lands the idea of toleration. I am proud to belong to a religion which has taught the world both tolerance and universal acceptance. We believe not only in universal toleration, but we accept all religions as true. I am proud to belong to a nation which has sheltered the persecuted and the refugees of all religions and all nations of the earth. I am proud to tell you that we have gathered in our bosom the purest remnant of the Israelites, who came to Southern India and took refuge with us in the very year in which their holy temple was shattered to pieces by Roman tyranny. I am proud to belong to the religion which has sheltered and is still fostering the remnant of the grand Zoroastrian nation. I will quote to you, brethren, a few lines from a hymn which I remember to have repeated from my earliest boyhood, which is every day repeated by millions of human beings: "As the different streams having their sources in different paths which men take through different tendencies, various though they appear, crooked or straight, all lead to Thee."
The present convention, which is one of the most august assemblies ever held, is in itself a vindication, a declaration to the world of the wonderful doctrine preached in the Gita: "Whosoever comes to Me, through whatsoever form, I reach him; all men are struggling through paths which in the end lead to me." Sectarianism, bigotry, and its horrible descendant, fanaticism, have long possessed this beautiful earth. They have filled the earth with violence, drenched it often and often with human blood, destroyed civilization and sent whole nations to despair. Had it not been for these horrible demons, human society would be far more advanced than it is now. But their time is come; and I fervently hope that the bell that tolled this morning in honor of this convention may be the death-knell of all fanaticism, of all persecutions with the sword or with the pen, and of all uncharitable feelings between persons wending their way to the same goal.

"Swamiji’s Contributions to India"

In spite of her innumerable linguistic, ethnic, historical and regional diversities, India has had from time immemorial a strong sense of cultural unity. It was, however, Swami Vivekananda who revealed the true foundations of this culture and thus clearly defined and strengthened the sense of unity as a nation.

Swamiji gave Indians proper understanding of their country’s great spiritual heritage and thus gave them pride in their past. Furthermore, he pointed out to Indians the drawbacks of Western culture and the need for India’s contribution to overcome these drawbacks. In this way Swamiji made India a nation with a global mission.

Sense of unity, pride in the past, sense of mission – these were the factors which gave real strength and purpose to India’s nationalist movement. Several eminent leaders of India’s freedom movement have acknowledged their indebtedness to Swamiji. Free India’s first Prime Minister Jawaharlal Nehru wrote: “Rooted in the past, full of pride in India’s prestige, Vivekananda was yet modern in his approach to life’s problems, and was a kind of bridge between the past of India and her present … he came as a tonic to the depressed and demoralized Hindu mind and gave it self-reliance and some roots in the past.” Netaji Subhash Chandra Bose wrote: “Swamiji harmonized the East and the West, religion and science, past and present. And that is why he is great. Our countrymen have gained unprecedented self-respect, self-reliance and self-assertion from his teachings.”

Swamiji’s most unique contribution to the creation of new India was to open the minds of Indians to their duty to the downtrodden masses. Long before the ideas of Karl Marx were known in India, Swamiji spoke about the role of the labouring classes in the production of the country’s wealth. Swamiji was the first religious leader in India to speak for the masses, formulate a definite philosophy of service, and organize large-scale social service.

An Interview With God!!!!

I dreamed I had an INTERVIEW WITH GOD.

“So, you would like to interview me?” GOD asked.

“If you have time,” I said.

GOD smile. “My time is eternity… what questions do you have in mind for me?”

“What surprises you the most about humankind?”

GOD answered…

“That they get bored with childhood, that they rush to grow up, and then long to be children again.”

“That they lose their health to make money… and then lose their money to restore their health.”

“That by thinking anxiously about the future, they forget the present, such that they live in neither the present nor the future.”

“That they live as if they would never die, and die as though they had never lived.”

GOD’s hand took mine… and we were silent for a while.

And then I asked, “As a parent, what are some of life’s lessons you want your children to learn?”

GOD replied, “To learn they cannot make anyone love them. All they can do is let themselves be loved.”

“To learn that it is not good to compare themselves to others.”

“To learn to forgive by practicing forgiveness.”

“To learn that it only takes a few seconds to open profound wounds in those they love, and it can take many years to heal them.”

“To learn that a rich person is not one who has the most, but is one who needs the least.”

“To learn that there are people who love them dearly, but simply do not yet know how to express or show their feelings.”

“To learn that two people can look at the same thing, and see it differently.”

“To learn that it is not enough that they forgive one another, but they must also forgive themselves.”

“Thank you for your time,” I said humbly.

“Is there anything else you would like your children to know?”

GOD smiled, and said… “Just know that I am here.” “Always.”

Power of Thought - by Swami Vivekananda

1. Doing is very good, but that comes from thinking. Little manifestations of energy through the muscles are called work. But where there is no thought, there will be no work. Fill the brain, therefore, with high thoughts, highest ideals, place them day and night before you, and out of that will come great work.

2. Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life—think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success.

3. If you have assimilated five ideas and made them your life and character, you have more education than any man who has got by heart a whole library.

4. It is thought which us the propelling force in us. Fill the mind with the highest thoughts, hear them day after day, and think them month after month. Never mind failures; they are quite natural, they are the beauty of life, these failures. What would life be without them? It would not be worth having if it were not struggles.

5. The only remedy for bad habits is counter habits; all the bad habits that have left their impressions are to be controlled by good habits. Go on doing good, thinking holy thoughts continuously; that is the only way to suppress base impressions.

6. Always remember that each word, thought, and deed lays up a store for you and that as the bad thoughts and bad works are ready to spring upon you like tigers, so also there is the inspiring hope that the good thoughts and good deeds are ready with the power of a hundred thousand angels to defend you always and for ever.

7. Let positive, strong, helpful thought enter into their (children’s) brains from very childhood.

8. Evil thoughts, looked at materially, are the disease bacilli.

9. The body is made by the thought that lies behind it. The body politic is thus the expression of national thought.

10. If we make ourselves pure and the instruments of good thoughts, these will enter us. The good soul will not be receptive to evil thoughts. evil thoughts find the best field in evil people; they are like microbes which germinate and increase only when they find a suitable soil.

11. Those who are always down-hearted and dispirited in this life can do no work

One Short Story but Insipirational Story..

The history of the baby frog.......






Once upon a time there was a bunch of baby frogs....

… participating in a
competition.
The target was to get to the top of a high tower.

A crowd of people had gathered to observe the race and encourage the participants.....

The start shot rang out.......



Quite honestly:
None of the onlookers believed that the baby frogs could actually accomplish getting to the top of the tower.
Words like:
"Åh, it’s too difficult!!!
They’ll never reach the top."
or:
"Not a chance... the tower is too high!"


One by one some of the baby frogs fell off…
...Except those who firstly climbed higher and higher..

The crowd kept on yelling:
"It’s too difficult. Nobody is going to make it!"

More baby frogs became tired and gave up...
...But one kept going higher and higher.....
He was not about giving up!

At the end everybody had given up, except the one determined to reach the top!
All the other participants naturally wanted to know how he had managed to do what none of them others had been able to do!


One competitor asked the winner, what was his secret?



The truth was.......
The winner was deaf!!!!



The lesson to be learned:

Don’t ever listen to people who are negative and pessimistic...
…they will deprive you of your loveliest dreams and wishes you carry in your hear!
Always be aware of the power of words, as everything you hear and read will interfere with your actions!

Therefore:
Always stay…




POSITIVE!



And most of all:
Turn a deaf ear when people tell you, that you cannot achieve your dreams!




Always believe:
You can make it!

શિયાળનો ન્યાય

એક પંડિતજી હતા. તે ભારે દયાળુ હતા. એક દિવસ તે બહારગામ જવા નીકળ્યા. ચાલતાં ચાલતાં જંગલ આવ્યું. જંગલમાં એમણે પાંજરામાં પુરાયેલો સિંહ જોયો.

સિંહે પંડિતજીને જોઈને વિનંતી કરી, ‘હે પંડિતજી! તમે તો દયાળુ છો. મને પીંજરામાંથી બહાર કાઢો. તમને હું સોનામહોરથી ભરેલી થેલી આપીશ!’

પંડિતજીને થયું, સોનામહોરથી ભરેલી થેલી! વાહ! મારું નસીબ ઊઘડી ગયું. પંડિતજીએ લાંબો વિચાર કર્યા વિના સિંહને પાંજરામાંથી બહાર કાઢ્યો. બહાર નીકળ્યો એટલે સિંહ કહે, ‘મને ભૂખ લાગી છે. હવે હું તમને ખાઈ જઈશ.’

પંડિતજી બહુ કગરર્યા પણ સિંહ કહે, ‘ના હું તો તમને ખાઈશ.’ એટલામાં ત્યાં એક શિયાળ આવ્યું. પંડિતજીએ બધી વાત તેને કરી, પોતાનો ન્યાય કરવા કહ્યું.

શિયાળ કહે, ‘ન્યાય કરવો ખૂબ અઘરો છે. તમે મને સમજાવો કે સિંહ પહેલાં ક્યાં હતો ને પંડિતજી તમે ક્યાં હતાં?’

આવું સાંભળી સિંહ કૂદકો મારી પાંજરામાં જઈ ઊભો રહ્યો ને બોલ્યો, ‘હું પહેલા અહીં ઊભો હતો.’

પંડિતજીએ સિંહને પાંજરાંમાંથી કઈ રીતે બહાર કાઢ્યો તે સમજાવ્યું. શિયાળે પાંજરા પાસે જઈ તેનો દરવાજો બંધ કરી દીધો ને બોલ્યું, ‘સિંહરાજ તમે પાંજરામાં હતા ત્યારે આમ જ દરવાજો બંધ હતો ને?’

સિંહે કહ્યું, ‘હા.’

શિયાળ બોલ્યું, ‘પંડિતજી તમે હવે આગળ ચાલવા માંડો. સિંહ ઉપર તમે ઉપકાર કર્યો છતાં તે તમને મારી નાખવા તૈયાર થયો તેથી સિંહરાજ પાંજરામાં જ સારા’ એમ કહીને તે પણ જંગલમાં જતું રહ્યું.

વગર વિચારે જાતે ઊભી કરેલી આફતમાંથી પંડિતજી ઉગરી ગયા.

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List of Softwares which i use in my Android Phone.

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• Saavn Music player: It is like Raaga Music player which can play favorite music online.
 • HindiKhoj:Which help me to find word like English to Hindi dictionary
• File Manager: Manage files from SD cards and lot more.
 • TOI: Read Times of India.
• Compass: Know the Directions.
• AVG Antivirus: To Protect from viruses
. • Adobe Reader: To read PDFs;
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• Sms backup and Restore: Which takes back up from phone to SD card and also restore it back
. • Winamp: A Good Music Player.
 • Nimbuzz: To get connected with facebook, yahoo, gmail etc.
 • Skype: To call Skype to Skype and chat.
 • free2sms:For send sms with full on sms and way2sms with Mobile Internet
• Koza:A best dictionary of English to Gujarati to find meaning of English word
• Dropbox: best software to see your shared files and folders online.
 • Divyabhasker:To read Guajarati News from phone;
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• Sound Meter: to check the current noise pollution in decibel unit.
 • Smart Distance: An application to measure the width and height of obstacles which are near to you.
 • Speed Gun: An Application which finds the speed running vehicles.
• Paper Toss Game • Opera Mini Browser: With which I can read Guajarati fonts.